Alright folks. It’s time to get brutally honest.
It all started when I came to the conclusion that I’m getting…. well…fluffy (literally). And no one wants to be fluffy. Except for maybe a marshmallow.
I was laying in bed this morning with my mind running 100 miles a minute (I’ve had a lot going on lately in all areas of my life) when it suddenly hit me. I’M NOT THRILLED WITH THINGS AT THE MOMENT BECAUSE I’M NOT TAKING CARE OF MYSELF.
- My clothes are fitting just a tad bit tighter than they used to. (Why I’m feeling fluffy.)
- I’m working too much without any boundaries.
- I’m not getting enough sleep.
- I’m not working out as often as I need to.
- I’m eating out way to often which usually means less healthy options and a hole in my wallet.
- I’m letting other people’s wants get in the way of my needs. THIS IS A BIG ONE Y’ALL! And this one in particular is screwing with ALL areas of my life. Work, relationships, social, finances, etc. This one is a pain in my ass.
I sat there trying to figure out why. I’m a smart lady. I know the benefits of working out, eating right, getting enough sleep, having a work-life balance, all of that. I’m the first one to preach to folks that you HAVE to take care of yourself before you start worrying about taking care of others. So why is it that, even though I know all this, I’m not doing it?
I’M MAKING EXCUSES!
Seriously. Good excuses, lame excuses, flat out lies (to myself), I’m working with all of them. As the proper logical human being that I am, I sat there trying to figure out WHY I was making excuses. But it really all boiled down to this….. It doesn’t really matter! WHY I’m making excuses isn’t the damn problem. The problem is that I’m making them in the first place.
And I bet that’s your problem to.
Look at an area of your life that you’re having…complications…in. Any area, doesn’t matter. If you dig down deep and are brutally honest with yourself (I’m talking God’s Honest Truth here) you’ll likely find that you’re making excuses. And the excuses are probably getting fluffy too.
- I’m not working out as much because I’m too busy working.
- I can’t put boundaries in my worklife because I have to make money to pay the bills.
- I’m not getting enough sleep because (well, see sentence above).
- I’m eating out way to often because I don’t have the time to go grocery shopping and when I do, I don’t have time to cook.
I’ve said all of these to myself before. But it’s a damn (crying) shame, really. Everything all boils down to one sentence.
I’M NOT DOING _______ BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO.
*Insert anything that you aren’t doing in the blank and the sentence still works.
It’s a hard truth to realize. I THINK I want to work out. But if I did, I’d be doing it. I THINK I want to sleep more, but if I did, I’d be doing it. And so on and so on.
Now. Before you go biting my head off and saying “No Lindsay! I really do want to [insert ambition here] but I’m really overwhelmed and really don’t have time” let me tell you something. If you don’t have time, take something off your plate and make time. If you don’t have the energy, take something off your plate and make the energy. If you live in a really really cold place and you can’t become the surfer you’ve always wanted to become, move. If you want something bad enough you will always find a way. ALWAYS.
There are people out there that have way more on their plates than you do and they manage to make it work. My inspirational crush right now is Ivanka Trump. Not only does this woman have an Executive Vice Principal role at The Trump Organization, but she also is the principal at Ivanka Trump Fine Jewelry. And she runs the Ivanka Trump Lifestyle Collection (which includes fragrance, footwear, handbags, outerwear and eyewear collections.) She’s a writer, a former model, and makes numerous TV appearances. Not to mention she’s a wife, a mother of two, works out daily, and has weekly date nights. Oh and she’s only 33 years old. This woman has a ton on her plate. Way more than I do in my day. And she finds time to make it work. She KNOWS what’s important to her and she makes time for it.
The next step is figuring out what you want bad enough. You can have more than one priority but you can’t have EVERYTHING be a priority. Decide what you want really badly right now. And put the rest on hold. Just for now. You can pick them up again later. Pick your top priorities and go after them. But for the love of God, stop making (fluffy) excuses.
They do nothing but hold you back from accomplishing your dreams.